SELF CONFIDENCE
The class started with the discussion on "REASONS FOR LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE".
The class started with the discussion on "REASONS FOR LACK OF SELF CONFIDENCE".
KARAN stated that people tend to lose their confidence when they
they think too much about the outcome,they get nervous and lose their self confidence and as a result of which they fail in performing their task well.AVINASH agreed with KARAN and gave example of stage fear.Admitting the fact that he shared the same, he said that people are afraid that others might make fun of them in case they faltered.DEVBRAT added that when we care too much about what others are going to say about us our concentrate on taking care that we dont make a fool of ourselves in front of all rather than focusing on doing our available best.SHRIYYA said that failures can break our confidence
The group then discussed situations in which we lose our confidence;
1. PUBLIC SPEAKING:
Avinash said that even after practice if some people go on stage they go blank .TRINATH expressed that as SHRIYYA had plenty of stage appearances she experienced no stage fear.
Probing into possible solutions of the problem ,group came up with some ideas.
Sir suggested considering the whole gathering as a single person .Devbrat suggested considering the crowd as a whole herd of buffaloes.Sir modified it again and suggested considering the crowd as clones of one single acquaintance.KAUSHIK suggested that we should not care at all about the result as it tend s to make us self conscious.Devbrat expressed that we think that people will poke fun at us for a long time or think that we are incompetent but actually others are too absorbed in their work to be bothering about others.In the end it was concluded that it is better to think just about doing our best and not caring about the outcome.Trinath suggested that doing the same job again and again helps in overcoming the fear.
2.OPINION MANIPULATED BY OTHERS:
Sir said that sometimes our opinions are mainpulated by others both in a positve way and sometimes in a negative way.The other sir quoted an example from his school days in which he and his had poked fun at one of their friends and unintentionally caused him to give up music .The matter was settled with the guilty group apologizing to the person.Tabish stated an example of positive manipulation of opinion in which when he was in 8th standard he couldnot perform well and his confidence was completely shattered .His mother helped him out of this depressing condition and boosted his morale with the result that TABISH was finally able to overcome this hurdle.
SNEHASHISH said that when we become gullible , we start following what others say in order to please them like sleeping late nights so that one can identify himself as belonging to his group .Sir stated an inspiring example of a college friend of his who stuck to his schedule and enjoyed the college life as well to the fullest.
3.FAILURES:
SHRIYYA said that failure can break one's belief over his abilities but if one learn's from his mistakes they can become stepping stones in our life.
GENERAL SOLUTIONS:
- SIR emphasised the need of practicing hard for the task that we feel that we might not feel confident about while performing it.
- Kaushik suggested not caring about the result at all.
- Devbrat suggested focusing on doing our best rather than preparing for it rather than being afraid of the outcome.
- Sir finally added that" THE BEST METHOD IS TO BELIEVE ON YOURSELF AND YOUR ABILITIES".
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ReplyDeleteWell written summary. However, have a few suggestions here.
ReplyDelete- The ideas in the article are slightly disorganized. You should be spending a little bit of time thinking and organizing all the ideas, and expressing the conclusions of the group rather than a bunch of opinions of individuals. That way, the person reading it feels the coherence in the article.
- You have way too many references. The article gives the feel of being a bunch of quotes rather than conveying a common theme. One should use references only when necessary. And, also don't use capitals, it distracts.
Nicely done. People who are yet to post, please keep a note of these points.
I would like to add:
ReplyDeleteTo make failures as stepping stones in life what we should do is to think 'what went wrong and how i can improve next time' rather than 'blaming yourself' for not performing well the first time itself. This way self-analysation wont be morale drenching and instead would be inspiring.
There was a little bit discussion on the causes of lack of self-confidence which seemed to fall into three categories,
ReplyDelete(1) Fear of outcome
(2) Scared of peer's opinions
(3) Lack of belief in ones abilities
When we had discussed various cases of lack of self-confidence, they seemed to fall into the above categories (mentioned in the article).
The solutions for lack of self-confidence were
(1) Practice and prepare for the tasks
(2) Don't fear about the outcome too much. The suggestion about not caring at all about the result may not qualify as a viable solution because it makes us complacent rather than extracting the best from us.
(3) Relating to others would make us less scared of others (The example of Buffaloes and Clones in the article).
When ever we set goals, We have to do it in such a way that we will be able to achieve it.
ReplyDeleteSome times If our goals are too high, Failure to achieve the goals can sort of lower our self confidence and morale.
Also lack of belief in one's ability is due to his non-willingness to try out new thing.
For example take a person who likes to try out new stuff.
He would probably mind what the other people would say.
The second time, He wouldnt care much about others opinion as his mind is set and he wouldnt get that offended by others comments.
Or take the case of a person (who is scared of exams )failing in the exams.The 1st time he will feel bad and scared abut the next.
The second time he fails , at the maximum he will be depressed for a day.
The next time, even though he might fail, it is not due to the fear of exams. Its only due to the lack of studying hours. Thus he would have got rid of his fear for exams
that high expectations of people from us make us to think more about the outcome of our tasks rather than the task itself . we must just not care what people would think about us ,rather we must emphasise on our work without worrying about the outcome. every work must be taken in the right spirit and failures must act as a positive feed back pushing us to higher limits rather than discouraging us. This may be achieved by constant introspection , and analysing where we went wrong and find ways of how to improve ourselves. These tiny improvements will get summed and increase our self-confidence.
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